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I am more than my hair. I do, especially as I was fortunate to be raised by a Black woman who affirmed my natural hair. I would sometimes relax my hair, but only really for special occasions, and my mum forbid me from having weave until I was able to afford it. This meant I was forced to love my hair way before the natural hair movement asked me to — and it worked.
All those years of avoiding relaxers and keeping my hair in protective hairstyles like box braids meant my hair grew healthy and long. Whenever I had the chance to style it and wear it out I would. This meant I must love my hair, right? The length of my hair made me feel attractive and I relied on that feeling. When we speak about European beauty standards within the Black community we forget that length is part of that conversation. Equally, I wanted to challenge myself and that very notion.
And more importantly, I wanted to save some of the money I was spending on my hair. So, just like that, one day in August, I took myself off to the local barbers, as recommended by a family friend, to cut and dye my hair.
Keziah Ndouri understands the motivation. But the year old model and content creator from London was increasingly growing tired of doing her hair — especially after it started thinning. Nevertheless, the barber made me feel at ease and we got along well. Before he started work, he asked me if I was sure and, nervously, I said yes.
Seeing my hair fall around me made me realise how much I actually had. As it shortened by the minute, I started to panic a bit. When he was finished and I looked into the mirror I liked what I saw: me. Not only did I feel the most confident I have in years, I looked amazing. Dakota Branch-Smith, 26, an entertainment PR executive from London, already had a positive relationship with her hair when she decided to go for the chop, she tells me.
But since cutting it short, both that relationship — and her hair — have only got healthier. I know what she means. Cutting my hair has completely rid me of any inherited European beauty ideals. It has reminded me that I am enough. And in terms of maintenance, I no longer have to deal with the stress of long Looking for thick black woman days or worry about how I am going to style my hair.
She later had to cut it a second time, now aged 13 and feeling even more self-conscious.
At least I have a better shape up. People like to have an opinion on your hair. So, what do those around me make of my new style? Well, my friends love it, telling me just what I need to hear and meaning it too, I hope — that my short hair suits me. My older sister is also a big fan of the cut, but then she was a big influence during this whole process too, as someone who cut her hair in her own early 20s and has been a huge advocate ever since.
She seems more at peace with my cut. My sister now wants me to experiment with colour. Turns out, cropped hair is a canvas. It was still a nerve-wracking experience, though. But what took some confidence only gave her more.
And ultimately, it was a liberating experience. Which I did. What also helped was following short hair s on Instagram and YouTubers who also did the big chop as well, just so I knew what potential styles I could do.
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